My birth family found me !

[Stjofön Big]

I hope you get the connection you want, Scott! Glad for your sake.

[Denis]

Wow, that's pretty cool, Scott! Do you know how old your bio dad is now?

[Rob]

Great news Scott!
I'm with the pen and paper lobby for the reasons you outlined.
Bob

[uwe]

Movie-worthy!!! 

[Lightyear]

Wow, what fantastic news - very uplifting to hear!

[OldManC]

I love my parents and huge extended family as much as anyone ever could, but meeting and establishing relationships with my birth mother and father was life changing for me. Scott, I hope you'll find the words to write your birth father. I agree with Dave in putting your feelings out from he start and letting him know you aren't resentful. I know mine was very worried about that possibility the first time we spoke, and it made all the difference in the world when he realized I harbored no ill will toward him. He's become a very important part of my life and is the only grandfather my kids have gotten to know and be loved by. I'm really happy for you and Rick.

[uwe]

"The times being what they were in '59 it sounds like she was forced to give us up by her grandfather."


"Once we were born the family moved from Buffalo to Detroit to give mom a new start."


Oh my, people tend to forget how the good old times were also the dark ages.

[Pilgrim]

Amen. And attitudes were locked into roles from the past.

[uwe]

My mom was 19 when she went pregnant with my elder brother. My dad, a year younger than her, was kicked off school for it. This was 1950/51. They weren't allowed to marry or live together (at that time you were only full legal age in Germany with 21).

The mind boggles.

[dadagoboi]

Half of the USA is trying to push the country back to at least the 1950s.  Banning sex ed being the stupidest move IMO.

[Dave W]

Even at the time I graduated from high school in the mid 60s, a mother couldn't attend high school. For that matter, neither could a married woman who wasn't a mother. Classmate of mine and his girlfriend got married at the start of our senior year (her junior year) and kept it secret all year, but she had a baby the summer after and was forced to drop out.

[Pilgrim]

Heck, my 1964 high school class was the first to allow girls to wear jeans instead of dresses.  Now we're lucky if they wear anything worthy of being called clothing.

[drbassman]

Wow Scott, how cool!  I found my bio-dad back in 1994 or so.  It turned out he lived 20 minutes away from my Mom and no one had a clue!  It was good to find my roots, as it were, and get some medical history.  I have 3 half brothers and a half sister.  Weird!  I was lucky they only got divorced when I was about 1 and then mom remarried shortly afterward to a great guy.  I too had a great childhood with a super stepdad who adopted me as soon as they married.  Finding bio-parents can turn out great or go bad.  For me it was good and it sounds like you are having a positive experience,too.  Best wishes!

[Pilgrim]

Scott, this is a really nice thing.  I hope all goes well when you meet.

[Aussie Mark]

Scott, this is great.  I'm sure you'll both feel happy about meeting each other.  My dad walked out on my mum and I when I was 3 (1964) and I didn't meet him again under I was 26 (1987).  He turns 77 this year, and we get along very well.  Plus, he had 2 kids with his second wife, so after growing up as an only child I now have 2 siblings.