... have suffered, I must accept defeat.
He/she doesn't refer to himself/herself as either, but as "them", that has a nice touch to it:
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Mark, perhaps you want to consider them for the Nasty Habits?
Good and enthusiastic drumming, but kind of sobering how much of Shania "live" is tapes and loops. 
And she's certainly not the only one. Yes, it sounds perfect, but is that the point?
Especially in today's context I have only sincere admiration for anyone that chooses to live proudly outside of my (U.S.) societal norms, my transsexual bandmates both live their lives as women 24/7 and while they're different (one is Post Op, one not) they both choose to identify as female. I'm obviously somewhere else on that scale, I enjoy my given male gender very much but have a very feminine part as well, and don't hide it. "Them" as a label probably wouldn't work for my band, or me, but again that's ok, it's a label and I don't like to get caught up in labels much anymore.
Regarding the drumming it's very good and enthusiastic, them probably doesn't really need loops and tapes to play so well, Rock is best when it's done "in the moment", not canned or driven by machines, much less over production in the studio. We played on NYE with a Sub drummer that's about 32, he really came to play, he and drove the effing bus hard, the band cooked very nicely. Rock is a young one's game.
Here's my bandmate, Ms. Ginger Li, speaking publicly about the nasty Habits, she is the finest friend and bandmate, I'm very fortunate.
