Moving

[godofthunder]

 Man I never thought this would happen, 15 years ago we bought a rundown 1840 farm house and poured our heart and souls into restoring it. Kids were never in our thoughts when we bought the place. In the past 15 years the school district especialy the middle and HS have gone in the dumper, lots of violence,gangs, assaults and sexual assaults. Not the place I want to send our daughter. So we are moving to a much better district, the town I'm from, were going home. I'm sad ,happy and excited all at once ! Man do I have a lot of stuff I never thought I'd leave here so I dragged stuff home accordingly. It is going to be a long summer wish me luck.

[angrymatt]

I just moved out of my own place of three years into a friend's house as a room mate.  Even after only three years I couldn't believe the amount of crap I'd collected and had to ditch.  I'd hate to see what I'd have done with 15 years.

Good luck with the move man.  Sometimes purging feels good.

[HornetAMX]

Good luck with the move!  We've lived in this house since 1997 and I can't imagine all of the stuff I've collected over those years.  Moving is one of my least favorite things to do.  Luckily we are in a great area with some good schools. 

[ramone57]

yeah, it's incredible how much stuff people can accumulate.  when we moved into our current home, we filled a 24' truck and still had to make several trips with the cars.   and that was after a number of runs to the dump.  we were ruthless as we tried to purge stuff we never used or had in boxes for years and it still wasn't enough.   once we got settled into the new house, the cycle began again.  we try to stay on top of it, but you can not deny your nature!
good luck with your move, it can be a big ordeal but it sounds like you're doing it for the right reasons.

[Nocturnal]

I understand all of this all to well. We just finished moving after 3 yrs in the same house, and we donated, sold, or trashed quite a bit of stuff and it still wasn't enough. The move was relatively painless and we're going to be sifting thru boxes for a couple more weeks. At least I'll be able to hang my basses on the wall now!!

[Lightyear]

You too huh?  We bought our current house a little less than 18 years ago - our daughter was ten months old!  We're meeting with our realtor tomorrow to sign the papers to list the house.  We would have moved five years ago but the princess squealed like s stuck pig at the prospect   So, we thought, OK, finish school with your friends, which happens in about two weeks!, and then we'll move.

So now we're ready to move and the princess wants to know why we're moving?   "There's noting wrong with this house...."  Needless to say it's been rough on all of us - this is the house she has grown up in and I've absolutley rebuilt the thing, it was a decrepit estate sale dump to start with.  The fact is that it is a a 32 year old tract house that, despite my best efforts, is not energy efficient, has a horrid floor plan and is in a neighborhood that is spriraling down pretty damn fast.  I have a two lane road behind me, that has had progressively more traffic on over the years, that will be turned into a major artery that will connect to I-45 in less than a year - meaning four lanes with a 16 foor median - it's time to get out.

The place is paid for and I have huge chunk of cash to add to our equity - I have absolutley no debt   The place we're having built is still not huge - 2100 sqaure feet but it is in very nice area and has a killer floor plan AND I'm adding a third bay on the garage - I will finally have dedicated shop space!

Still it's traumatic just getting to this point - don't get me started on the actual move

Still - I'm scared sh*tless over taking out another mortage - I paid this place off last year - and still bothers me that my kiddo is upset ( yes she IS spoiled - I've done a damn fine job of that )

One thing's for sure your daughter will thank you for getting her to a good school district - middle school is a nightmare - even in great school district  - I shudder to think what it would be like in the current school district.

Good luck on your move!

[Dave W]

Moving is always tough and stressful in any case, even more so when you're leaving a place you put so much of your effort into. Just take plenty of deep breaths and don't rush anything.

[uwe]

Spoiled or not - moving as a teenager, when your peer group seems everything to you, is hard. When we moved from Africa back to Germany, I was 15 and hated it. Took me years to adjust back to Germany, I was so Americanized.

But of course your daughter will be the one to move soon though that is probably not yet fully on the back of her mind. When I turned 18 and school was nearing end, I was totally stumped at what I should do next. Like a lot of 18 year olds I would have preferred to have my then status frozen in time.

Edith's daughter Lea is 18 and leaving school - great grades but no idea what to do next, except change as little as possible. Not go and live and work in another country for a while, not study in a city in another part of Germany, not even moving out at home to live in her own flat. It's her basically holding on to what has been, but I doubt whether her life will be anything like it is now in, say, 18 months from now. We've all done it.

Uwe

[Lightyear]

The princess is an only child so we are very aware of everything that impacts her life   I know most anyone else in Scott's position would be doing the same thing he is - I know that I would/will sell my soul to Satan himself to protect my kid.

And yes - like a lot of 18 year olds she has no idea of what she wants to do with her life.  College is a sure thing but she will stay close to home for a year or two - saves money and she avoids the dormitory - which she hates.  We feel good that she had straight A's with advanced Englsh, 4 years of math and four years of science, really good SAT scores and she has 2 semesters college ( 3.8 so far  ) English under belt through dual credit this year - only 112 hours to go

[Barklessdog]

I have known people who moved to get new jobs, relocate from the east coast or Chicago to the west coast, then the company gets bought or things don't work out and they are let go.

All that stress for nothing!

The other hard part is, if you move far enough away, is to find all new doctors & dentists. We went through 2 different dentists when we moved. One retired and they other saw money in your mouth and wanted to re-due everything!