The Last Bass Outpost
Gear Discussion Forums => Gibson Basses => Topic started by: godofthunder on October 30, 2012, 08:14:59 AM
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Crazy times at the Ponderosa. I am not posting as much, lots going on. My father in law is terminally ill, My wife's job is a day to day question (Kodak), I'm looking for a job with benefits don't want to get caught without health care. And lets just say our 15 year old daughter is being well 15. Oh yeah and my van has a intermittent electrical problem and will just shut down when ever the F it feels like it, power just dies no flashers, can't unlock the doors. It spent 3 days at the dealer and they can't find a thing wrong....................it's a death trap. So if you don't hear from me you'll know why. I have a review of Carlos NR fiver (a beautiful piece of work, just not for me. I kept thinking of ways to make it a 4 banger) and Epi's new 60's EB3.
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Are you think of unloading the fiver? Let me know. Hope things work out, you do have a lot going on!!! Best wishes and prayers for all of you!
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Take care of the important things Scott, your family and you. Everything else will come around in good time.
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We're all here sending you good vibes to you & yours Scott.
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Yup, focus on the important stuff, and the rest will take care of itself.
Prayers are with you while you're getting everything under control.
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Godspeed, my friend! Cheers to you and your family.
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Hope things settle down for you soon. Good vibes sent your way~~~~~~
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Hang in there!
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Thanks guys :) I hate to complain but I really consider you guys my friends. It's strange, the van stresses me the most, I can't put my family in it and I am scared to even drive it to a dealer to trade it in. Between a rock and a hard place with that one.
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I'm with you bro'...
My wife's mother was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer last Monday - one to two months is a best estimate at present - chemo may extend by a short time but at what cost to her quality of life - she's not that strong so they may decline it... c'est la vie/ so ist das leben...
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Best wishes, Scott.
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Which car door could stop the Saw of Thunder? :mrgreen: Have a hammer with you in the car and you'll be alright even if worst comes to worst.
For everything else: Halt die Ohren steif! (Loosely translates as "Hang on in there!")
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Kenny I am so sorry. Paulie (my father in law) has opted for hospice. They talk of weeks but I think it's more like days. The the chemo would be worse than the disease. My heart felt sympathies to you and your wife. Brothers we are. All of us.
I'm with you bro'...
My wife's mother was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer last Monday - one to two months is a best estimate at present - chemo may extend by a short time but at what cost to her quality of life - she's not that strong so they may decline it... c'est la vie/ so ist das leben...
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Prayers to you and your family, Scott. You're a good friend. Hang in there. This too shall pass.
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Hang in there Scott. We've been there with a daughter ourselves, it can flat out wear you out, ours is now a beautiful 22 year old grad student and believe me it was a hell of a battle along the way. My only advice is stay strong and love her - you'll all pull through in the end though you may feel like you barely survived WW3. I don't know why bad crap seems to clump together or why it happens to nice folks and not the asshats of the world. Have faith - it's bound to get better.
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Hang in, Scott - we have two daughters who are now 23 and 24. I can't say they ran us over too much stuff, but it definitely takes time and some heart-to-heart talks. Do what you can do and keep planning ahead.
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Good mojo from Raleigh!
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Again many thanks guys :) We moved him to hospice care this morning. He is on morphine and not eating (hasn't really eaten in weeks) I can't imagine it will be all that long.
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Just went through this long distance (NJ / FL) with my sis. She was diagnosed last fall with Stage 4 metastatic lung cancer, and did the chemo, hoping for some extra time. We tried to get her to move back to NJ, but she wouldn't hear of it. Hospice, morphine, the whole magilla. We lost her at the end of August, and I wound up traveling down there to clean out her apartment, donate some stuff, load her old Jeep with the rest and head back home. My dad is 92 and is in no way capable of handling any of this stuff himself. She died without ever signing the will, etc - despite efforts on the part of her friends and myself to get her to do so, so that compounds everything.
Scott, I've got a 15-year old son that tests us on a regular basis, so I know it ain't easy. Mood swings, attitude, you name it. A friend of mine is a single dad with a 16-year old daughter that doesn't even acknowledge him when he congratulates her on a good game or whatever, and it breaks his heart. All you can do is be there to help them get up after they fall.
Re the van... what year/brand is it?
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I am so sorry about your sister................. My folks have been gone 15 years now. My wife's mom passed three weeks after I met Cath(25 years ago). Paulie my father in law has been like another Dad. I am a lucky guy. I am adopted, I came into this world with out a father yet I ended up with two.
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So sorry to hear about your families Kenny and Lowend. Life is so tenuous, we should never take it for granted. Blessings to you guys and Scott for peace and comfort over the next weeks. I know how difficult the journey can be for those who are ill. Blessings to all!
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Sorry to hear about the conditions for your relatives, guys. I understand some of us are in the age when that kind of things starts happening. Or, as for me and some other guys here, when those times gets a part of everyday life. I can only speak out of my own experiences, which tells me that both the night and day can get really dark, but that there's light ahead. It's just that it's hard to believe in the dark hours.
As for your daughter, Scott, I can say the wife and me were really worried some years ago concerning our youngest daughter. And we had extremely good cause to be, too. Now she's 24, living in another part of our country, getting an education, and taking care of her life in general.
When we look back at our own lifes, sure we realize that our parents had good reasons to be worried, at times.
Whatever, just don't loose the faith and hope for better days ahead!
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Sorry to hear of your troubles Billy...
Buzz... I know exactly what you mean - it never rains but it does tend to pour - our daughter was diagnosed with a medical condition last year and has suffered with depression since, this depression was also more recently diagnosed (unconnected to her physical condition) as something relatively unheard of over here - BPD - even the name is controversial and it is still being sorted into sub conditions... she is not taking her nan's circumstances well... we learn if she (my MiL) is fit enough fo chemo tomorrow... the best it would do is extend by a short time and not cure... as my MiL has lost 40 lbs in about a month we do not expect good news...
Bill... knowing what you've been through your thoughts and comments are appreciated...
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Sounds like a lot of hard to deal with stuff going on at the moment. For a change things at here are going pretty well, even if waaaay to busy and not enough sleep. Best wishes to you Scott and Ken.
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Cheers Bret, keep feeding them dogs... ;)
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Sorry to hear of your troubles Billy...
Buzz... I know exactly what you mean - it never rains but it does tend to pour - our daughter was diagnosed with a medical condition last year and has suffered with depression since, this depression was also more recently diagnosed (unconnected to her physical condition) as something relatively unheard of over here - BPD - even the name is controversial and it is still being sorted into sub conditions... she is not taking her nan's circumstances well... we learn if she (my MiL) is fit enough fo chemo tomorrow... the best it would do is extend by a short time and not cure... as my MiL has lost 40 lbs in about a month we do not expect good news...
Bill... knowing what you've been through your thoughts and comments are appreciated...
You all are in our prayers. When we, or a loved one, get seriously ill, we are often reminded of how precious life is and how we should cherish every minute of our time with family and friends. Blessings.
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Again many thanks guys :) We moved him to hospice care this morning. He is on morphine and not eating (hasn't really eaten in weeks) I can't imagine it will be all that long.
Sounds like my mom - the doctors were even able to tell us the exact time ("You now have 15 minutes to say good bye, final dosage.") Sister Morphine is a gentle last companion.
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I am sorry about your Mom Uwe. Same for my Dad 14 years ago he went out on morphine.
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The morphine part - once they gave it to her - was probably the best part in her entire end, the months before that were more grueling. She was neither in pain nor did she at that point realize anymore what she was leaving behind. Her body didn't want to say good bye though, that last breather was a forceful convulsion and then nothing.
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We were with both of my parents when they passed (mum in '92 and dad in '01), under similar circumstances and having spent an old fashioned all-night vigil with them; some might think this is a harsh comment but not meant to be - they were justifiably and blessedly put to sleep...
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Not harsh at all Kenny.............................
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I remember sitting at my unconscious fathers bed in the summer of -97, along with my younger brother Ulf - who passed away this June after several years of fighting with the ugly cancer - holding dads hands. Our father did not show any sign of awakeness. But suddenly he opened his eyes, turned his head and looked at me, smiled, then turned his head the other way, looked and smiled at Ulf. Closed his eyes. Three hours later it was over.
That was one fine moment I'll carry the rest of my life.
Mama left six years later. Sitting in her hospital bed, holding the phone, and calling social services to arrange for her future living as she could not take care of her one-person household no more, possibly sitting in a wheelchair. So, she left right in her step. Just as she lived. Always moving.
We all know the end is always in sight. Still we're - usually - not prepared when it arrives.
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I had good news, bad news situations with both of my parents. They each died suddenly with heart failure (several years apart), and in an instant they were gone. While neither of them suffered or lingered for months, I was living out of state at the time and wasn't there. I couldn't have done anything anyway, but I always felt a bit at a loss as my sister had to deal with all of it immediately as she lived in the same town and I was out of state. Even getting there later that day didn't seem like enough.
Ironically, in both cases, I had spent time with both of them just the week before they died and had some good memories from those visits. Things have a way of working out and we have the rest of our lives to sort it out. The best memory is remembering all that they did for us and never forgetting their efforts born out of their love.
I pray all of you have great memories of your parents and the warmest feelings when you think of them!
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The last couple of weeks have been pretty rough and things came to pass this week... Jackie and one of her sisters had been sharing overnight stays at the hospital with their mum... she was not expected to last past last Friday but somehow (not through luck, more like a cruel twist of fate) lasted until this Wednesday evening - I had only just got to the hospital to bring my Jackie some soup when we both noticed a drop in her mum's breathing rate, and twenty minutes later she was gone...
Same as both my parents, she had been given an auto-driven morphine feed to ease the last moments... the only blessing was that it was peaceful at the passing and that she had finally got a private room so she had some dignity...
In the UK we have what is known as "care-in-the-community" which means "unstable" patients are mixed in with more regular types... next to my MIL was a lady with advanced dementia that spent most of her nights screaming about a fire, when she was moved out the next person spent her nights trying to steal mum's blankets...! Another "patient" had given a nurse a black eye one night, attacked two others and took a swing at Jackie's sister. Closest she got to directly pestering my wife was demanding that she help her into bed one night and she told her to call a nurse... she got in by herself without any problem - long term in the hospital patient in her seventies and prone to wandering about without clothes on... :o ... just plain nasty...
The last two days have been spent processing the legals and now I'm on call for the next 7 nights... :rolleyes:
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Wow Kenny, what a grind for you and your wife. I'm sorry to hear she passed away. You and your wife and her family are in my prayers.
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Wow Kenny it's awful no matter what. My deepest condolences. Cath's Dad passed last Monday and we postponed the calling hours, Funeral and wake till this week, Paulie was laid to rest on this past Wednesday. It's been a month that's for sure.
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Cheer's guys... appreciated
Scott... condolences to you and yours too... rip...
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My deepest sympathy to you and your family, Kenny and Scott. It'll be a while before you're all absolutely on your feets again, but you'll get there.
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Condolences to both of you and yours.
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Sorry to hear Scott, prayers go out to you and Cath's family.
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both of you are in my prayers
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Sorry to be so slow to catch up with this; deepest sympathies to both of you, Kenny & Scott - and to your families.
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My deepest condolences to both of you from me and my wife guys, a loss is always a loss, no matter if you were expecting it to happen or not. I remember how harsh was for my wife her father's loss when she was 19, almost everyone else on her family collapsed and she was the only one courageous enough to take care of stupid bureocratic things, like the absence of a will as it was so sudden. Hold on.
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My sympathy to all who have been dealing with these very difficult circumstances - on top of everything else we get handed on a day-to-day basis. You aren't alone, that's for sure. Try to eat and sleep well - and take time to enjoy the good stuff.
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Just got back from visiting an old bandmate who had a stroke on Thanksgiving..pretty scary stuff. Count your blessings.
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My deepest condolences to both of you from me and my wife guys, a loss is always a loss, no matter if you were expecting it to happen or not.
x2, My condolences, guys.
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Sorry for both of your losses.
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Thoughts and prayers for the both of you.
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Sorry for your loss guys. You both have my deepest sympathies.
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My condolences for the both of you
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Herzliches Beileid, but I'm happy to hear that for her it was a gentle transition. She just woke up somewhere else. Don't we all want to do that eventually.
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Herzliches Beileid, but I'm happy to hear that for her it was a gentle transition. She just woke up somewhere else. Don't we all want to do that eventually.
Amen Uwe!
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True, as long there are fruity women there too.
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... and Uwe... indeed...
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Condolences from downunder.
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Sorry to be so slow to catch up with this; deepest sympathies to both of you, Kenny & Scott - and to your families.
I have been especially slow in catching up with this. I was unaware of this thread and when Kenny mentioned an MIA thread several days ago, I had no idea he meant this one. This thread had completely escaped my attention. I also extend my deepest sympathies to Kenny and Scott. These are all tragic circumstances. Also, the BPD situation is something very real, challenging, and grueling, to say the least.
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My condolences to all of you.................. This has been a nasty year for me also. My mother passed away from complications of COPD last March. My Mother-in-Law passed away last July loosing her battle with ovarian cancer. My younger brother just passed away on the 19th of November. We've spent a ton of time dealing with everything that goes along with the death of loved ones. Both of my Brother-in-Laws lost a parent this year also. Many other funerals this year. I don't know if it is our age, or just an odd coincidence, but I can't wait for 2013!
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My condolences go out to all of you who have lost loved ones.
It helps me a bit to remember that the aftermath is harder for those who stay behind than those who depart - they are at peace.
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My condolences go out to all of you who have lost loved ones.
It helps me a bit to remember that the aftermath is harder for those who stay behind than those who depart - they are at peace.
Wow, diitto what Al said. We all are getting older and life is tenuous. I hope warm memories of your loved ones bring you some comfort in the days ahead. Blessings to you all.
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... but I can't wait for 2013!
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With you all the way... sounds like you've truly had a rough one...
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My condolences to all of you.................. This has been a nasty year for me also. My mother passed away from complications of COPD last March. My Mother-in-Law passed away last July loosing her battle with ovarian cancer. My younger brother just passed away on the 19th of November. We've spent a ton of time dealing with everything that goes along with the death of loved ones. Both of my Brother-in-Laws lost a parent this year also. Many other funerals this year. I don't know if it is our age, or just an odd coincidence, but I can't wait for 2013!
I also hope 2013 will be better for all of us.