I beg to differ (and I'm not joking). Edith always says "
I want to end up as one of your graphite bass necks once it's over, that way you'll still touch me!" This record thing could be an alternative. I find it somehow consoling.
But then I find the thought of ending up as fertile earth one day and nurturing plants and organisms consoling too. You know how us agnostics need/want to be GOOD FOR SOMETHING in the absence of any other reassurances.
I have never found the dead body/mortal coil of a person unsettling per se (the grief about losing her/him as a living person is another matter altogether to me), there is no corpse abhorrence within me. I saw the dead body of my mother after a long illness and it wasn't my mother to me, it was the dead body of my mother. Death and decomposition are biological processes to me, I could have easily become a pathologist.
I don't believe in the supernatural at all but if someone proved the existence of ghosts to me, I wouldn't be unsettled at all. I always find it peculiar that in popular culture ghosts are mostly viewed as threatening - most people aren't evil before they die, why should they be in an afterlife?