Sorry, Mark... just in case I missed something, was this the drummer that was the "straight" man to your "funny" man, to use comedy (sic) routine parlance, and not the "girl" you had about a year back...? How recently did he move on...? Living with issues like these, and what Buzz noted, can really make your days interesting...
Keep in touch with him...
I also understand what you mean by the being "in-tune" with your rhythm (method
) partner... I used to think that being able to keep in "eye-contact" for key points was important, but being able to do that without the "visual" fix is even better... [Zen] instinct... [/Zen]