Now I know who you are at TB, since Carlo told me who contacted him on Christine's behalf.
This is useful information, but it doesn't change the fact that Carlo had no idea that posting the link would upset her; he didn't know why she left (and obviously a number of others didn't -- I did some reading over there), so his request to hear it directly from Christine was quite reasonable. He then removed the link, only to be attacked here after he had done it. She demanded that he speak publicly "or sod off" (which she had no right to do), so he posted his PM, which she then reported, adding a personal attack on Carlo. I had already removed those posts a couple of minutes before I got the report.
I'm obviously not privy to what happened by PM at Talkbass, but based on some of what she said privately to Uwe and me about the situation here, I have my doubts about how scathing it was. Regardless, no one harassed her here.
She started this thread here the same day she started it at TB, not after she left TB. She wasn't posting here to get away from TB. She started an identical thread at the UK site the same day and was still posting there as of yesterday. That's the opposite of wanting to live your life quietly and privately.
This isn't completely accurate either. When I first saw Carlo's post directing folks over here, I sent him the private message informing him of why she left TB, and why she didn't want to be found here. The entire chapter of this drama that occurred here, would've been avoided, and her build thread would be perking right along today with smiles all around, if Carlo would have pulled that posting when I sent him that message. I would think that the better way to have handled the posting that told people where they could find her, would have been to remove it until after checking with her to see if that was something she wouldn't mind him doing, since he was now aware that personal harassment was involved. That makes more sense to me than leaving it up for an unknowable period of time, thus giving the "harassor" plenty of time to see it. If his post was truly innocuous, and intended only to help... why would he
not remove it until speaking with her about it? I don't know... but I learned long ago not to ask, "why", when Carlo is involved with something. He typically has his reasons, and will share them if/when he feels like it (it's worth noting that I respect the hell out of Carlo, and hate that any of this occurring at all).
I knew that she had started her build thread here before all this began... but most of the folks at TB didn't. We were able to enjoy 2-3 days here at the LBO before the excrement hit the turbine. That's all she wanted... a place to hang out & talk gear without being harassed, just like the rest of us.
I think something that's been a bit distorted throughout all of this, is the fact that the original conversation that started the ruckus at TB, was "privacy on the internet". When she quit TB, it wasn't over the subject matter. It was over the private message(s) she received. The topic of conversation could have been pizza or cars or anything else, and it wouldn't have made any difference. It was about the PM.
