I do notice a trend to pair white actors with cappucino brown, curly haired females as their wives/significant others.
Your perception is correct, and I can say that with certainty because I'm the white half of a mixed marriage and probably more apt to notice. These pairings seem to be less
uncommon, in movies and in life, than at any point during my lifetime but it's still surprising to see a couple who looks like us.
Then again, my boss, who is 77, is the son of a Jamaican woman and an Irishman. So who's to say?
The first recent, high-profile film to depict in a somewhat realistic light a relationship between a black woman and a white guy and not as a goof like that Queen Latifah/Steve Martin flick was a little flick called "Something New" (2006) that I stumble over on cable movie channels every now and then.
It's worth watching on its' own merits, if you don't mind romantic comedies, but there's one scene that absolutely killed me. The main characters, having recently met, are in the middle of an informal dinner on her dining room floor when the male lead stops in mid-bite and asks why everything in her house is beige.
If you have well-to-do black friends, that gag is a scream; if not, you'll probably miss it entirely.
Monster's Ball wasn't exactly a love story as I remember it, more like a melodramatic pairing of lost souls. Totally different animal. But that love scene...we all know what they say about the crazy ones...